Adulting is hard, and it gets harder as the world spins faster by the day.
Just look at what's actually hitting us, often starting at younger and younger ages: social media's total dominance of our attention, a climate crisis that never quite lets up, a globally connected society that somehow still feels lonely, constant war somewhere on the planet, technology evolving and revolting against us in the same breath, a rise in mental health challenges, political polarization, choice anxiety, job insecurity. The list doesn't really end, it just rotates.
This is the age of information. It's also turned out to be the age of uncertainty and instability.
So the real question isn't whether things are hard. It's: how do I not become a victim of all this instability? How do I find my own grounding, something that doesn't just help me survive these challenges, but actually reshapes how I meet them in the first place?
This is where the Gita and dharma culture have been transformative for me. But that raises a fair question of its own: how can something written so long ago actually shape and guide something as immediate as the present?
My First Exposure
I came to the Gita cautiously at first. I wasn't sure a several-thousand-year-old conversation between a prince and his charioteer had much to say to a kid trying to figure out modern life. But the more I sat with it, the more it started speaking to me directly, not as ancient history, but as something startlingly current.
I think there are two ways to actually test whether something old is still relevant.
The first is a simple question: if this book had been written last year, would I still find it valuable?
It's worth remembering how many books written hundreds, even thousands, of years ago are still taught in schools today, not as historical curiosities, but because they still land. Romeo and Juliet (1597). The Odyssey (8th century BCE). The Canterbury Tales (14th century). Macbeth (1606). Right alongside newer entries like To Kill a Mockingbird, Animal Farm, and The Diary of a Young Girl. Age was never really the test. The test was always whether something true about being human still holds.
The second way is to actually read it, and see what it's asking of you.
When I did, I saw that Krishna was speaking on values we all still aspire to, right now, today: honesty and integrity, compassion and empathy, work ethic, self-discipline, patience and tolerance, fortitude, gratitude, building community and kinship, courage, loyalty, responsibility and accountability, justice and fairness, balance and healthy detachment.
The Other Side of the Same Coin
None of this exists in a vacuum, though. For every value worth aspiring to, there's a corresponding struggle most of us know intimately.
What We Aspire To
- Honesty & integrity
- Compassion & empathy
- Work ethic
- Self-discipline
- Patience & tolerance
- Fortitude & gratitude
- Courage & loyalty
- Justice & fairness
What We Struggle With
- Ego
- Selfishness
- Greed
- Envy & jealousy
- Pride
- Attachment
Think about the last time you genuinely wrestled with any of those on the right. Not abstractly, but really wrestled.
And here's what makes it so much more complicated: this isn't just about what's inside of you. It's about what's inside everyone else too. A family member. A coworker. A boss. Even a president. We are all, every one of us, deeply susceptible to the state of our own mental, emotional, and spiritual health, or the lack of it. And we're constantly colliding with everyone else's version of the same struggle.
What Actually Makes It Relevant
When I hold all of this together, what I notice is something universal running underneath it, something genuinely not bound by time.
The Gita offers a path to architect a life so that you don't just survive it, but actually benefit from it well beyond the immediate moment. Krishna and Arjuna cover an enormous amount of ground together: the trap doors that catch us when we least expect it, the subtle and often unconscious erosion of our own character, how to balance practicality with real strategic thinking about our lives, how to make room for genuine personal reinvention without losing our core identity, how to avoid being seduced by extremism and instead walk the harder, far more rewarding path of balance. And how to do all of that with clarity, maturity, and resolve.
Life is hard. The Gita doesn't pretend otherwise. What it offers is a set of values and principles that apply to every single person, while still being powerfully customizable to exactly who you are and what you're made of.
An Exercise
List the top three to five areas of your life where you most want to see real change or improvement. Pick from categories like:
- Finance & Career
- Family & Friends
- Mental Health
- Physical Health
- Education
- Social / Cultural
- Spiritual & Ethical
- Recreational
Now prioritize them. For each one, be honest: what solutions have you already tried? A coach, guide, or mentor? Books or online resources, YouTube, courses? Workshops and seminars? Leaning on friends? Trying to figure it out entirely on your own?
There's no wrong answer here. But naming what you've already tried, and noticing what's still unresolved, is usually the first real step toward something that actually works.